I felt I had to respond to this thread. Please do not feel guitly for not picking up on your sons' loss earlier.

Our son Kenneth was diagnosed at 3 1/2. He has a progressive loss, so it was very mild at first. He did everything right, responded to our commands, turned to people speaking to him, ran to the phone when it rang. He spoke his firt words at one, put words together at the right age and his language and vocabulary grew at the appropriate rate. Only trouble was his articulationa and speech intelligibiilty. I remeber at his 3 year "well baby" visit discussing these speech concerns with the pediatrician who said " we don't worry about boys and their speech until they are 4" Speech therapy this young is not effective". So off we went and it was not until later that year as his loss progressed that we became concerned that maybe he wasn't hearing us as well anymore and had him tested (on our own!). He was then diagnosed with mild-moderate senorineural hearing impairment. His loss has now progressed to severe-profound and he is scheduled to receive an implant at the end of May.

Anyway, sorry for that long story, but as a parent in a similar situation, I wanted to share with you that feeling guilty will not make things better, only worse! Look ahead and not back and make the best decisions you can regarding your twins! They will be fine! Kenneth is happy, healthy, outgoing and is mainstreamed in first grade. He works hard and so do we, but it can be done!

(Our third child, Edward, is also hearing impaired (didn't take us three and 1/2 years the second time around!)

Be strong. Before you know it, this will be just another part of your daily routine and your child can be as "normal" as any other kid. Some kids wear eyeglasses to help them see and some wear hearing aides to help them hear. That sounds rather simplistic, but it has some truth.